Week 2

Dear Friends,

This week I learned about some interesting theories in the class the are 

1. Symbolic Interaction

2. Conflict Theory

3. Exchange Theory

4. General Ecological Theory.

To understand a strong marriage relation these theories work a lot. For example. If you see a couple with good facial expressions holding their hands and walking with joy we can feel the Symbolic Interaction of them.

In the same way, if we see a couple with disagreements and start asking them few questions separately and together and these may bring them back to live together or at least the good memories to be back to live. This is called conflict theory.

The next is Exchange theory. Help others to do something and recognize their efforts to balance in the relationship and keep them strong. As told by the prophets of old behold I say unto you, that by small and simple things are great things brought to pass; and small means in many instances doth confound the wise. And the Lord God doth work by means to bring about his great and eternal purposes . . . (Alma 37:6-7) and the last of these theories is General Ecological theory. Social-ecological theory suggests that children develop within a multi-layered “ecosystem” that naturally supports their ability to bond and develop. ... The theory states that children bond first and most importantly with the parents, especially a primary caregiver, then with the family unit. (Source: https://www.familiesandschools.org/why-it-works/based-on-research/social-ecological-theory)

There are many things to be considered to learn about families. These theories are one of them but there are much more things to be considered to learn about the relationships in the family. The other thing we need to look into is the family system. In some of the most situations to learn or predict about a person is by asking three simple things. 1. The family they grew up in. 2. The society they lived in and the influence it has upon them. and 3. How they have molded themselves.  One of them I am going to share with you today is the Family System. It consists of Rues, Roles executives, and sub-systems. The main difference a family is divided from other families is the Rules and how they were administered in the family. The rules in the family create boundaries from others and when there are new disturbances or challenges the rules become more or less. Every family has some boundaries. Some things are ok to talk about, and some things are not. The way families sit at the dining table and the way they dress decides these boundaries. Just as the unseen boundaries internally there will be some more boundaries they are how they talk, how they act, and how they live. These are some things that control the members of the family. Sometimes these lead to huge stress on the children and even the couple The rules are meant to help, correct, and bring back to normalcy and peace, but if it goes to the extreme. That will be the biggest curse to the family and relation between them. Life is small and when we see it in the big picture, we can see great things in our life and our family. One of the last things I want to share with you is culture. Sometimes for some people, it is unfortunate to live in weird cultures which damage the family and the society. It is your responsibility to change and live. If you want to create a beautiful family first change your mindset and start looking for eternal relationships. A man’s ignorance to change can destroy the peace in the world. 1000 steps in a 50 stories building will also start with just one step. You can be the change to create a beautiful family and wonderful society.

All the best. Good luck. Thanks for reading.