Week 7

 This week in the class I was learning some of the important steps in married life one of them is the transitions in Marriage. Mostly in every married person's life, this transition is pretty common. President Russell M. Nelson said, "Meanwhile, mortal misunderstandings can make mischief in marriage. In fact, each marriage starts with two built-in handicaps. It involves two imperfect people. Happiness can come to them only through their earnest effort. Just as harmony comes from an orchestra only when its members make a concentrated effort, so harmony in marriage also requires a concerted effort. That effort will succeed in each partner will minimize personal demands and maximize actions of loving selflessness." 

Before start telling you about the topic, I want to tell you about infatuation which some might have misunderstood when we are discussing it. This might be because my English communication was not much good to tell my feeling in a few words. Even when you are reading this blog you might not understand or misunderstand some things I write here. Please forgive me due to my inefficiency and imperfection in the language. Infatuation is pretty natural in most people, especially teenagers. Getting attracted to a unique person, talented person, beautiful/handsome look of a person of colour or even qualities is common at this age. For some getting attracted to foreigners is also common due to infatuation. I call this the attraction. This atraction doesn't last long as the base in a relation. A healthy relationship will lead to love between a man and a woman. The infatuation or attraction can stay for some time but cannot hold the relation to stay forever. All a person needs is unconditional love. Love among the two hearts of the couple will unite their minds. That is the reason if we see a happily married couple after a year of their marriage, we can find some of the qualities, interests and thoughts that might have been exchanged and followed among them.

A famous monk named Swami Vivekananda once said, "until one master to control his desires, one should not read rasa Lila as he will surely misinterpret it." Rasa Lila here means romance. Romance is an integral part of happy marriage life. Please do remember it is part of married life but not the only major part of it. Sex is not a hidden thing, it needs to be appreciated to sustain life and bring better generations in the bond of marriage. This is a sacred responsibility given by God to human beings. Sharing, love, kind words, humor, understanding, affection, care, importance, providing, preparation, planning, and much more play a very important part in this relationship. Sex might play a very important part to overcome physical emotions, but this is a very small part of life and if we look into the life future more all we need is a loving heart and a caring person.

When a soulmate is found and married successfully they mostly understand each other. This will vanish all the differences and make them unite one in mind and heart. Probably because of this the married couple leaves everything and starts to cleave onto one another. A true married partner's heart, soul, and mind are always filled with their committed life partner only. This is the reason most honest individuals stick to the commitment of their marriage and don't look with lust towards any other person. Those married relations will last forever beyond their death. I saw some women and men don't get married to another person after the death of their partner. This is because they cannot imagine another person in the place of their loved ones. The world might misunderstand you and think bad about you but a truly understood life partner will never misunderstand you and beyond that, they always look forward to seeing how good and better you would become rather than your current situations or circumstances.

Thank you for reading. All the best.

Wish you a great day followed by a wonderful and peaceful night.

-Srikanth