Week 8

 Dear friends,

In this week's class, I learned about stress in the family. Stress can cause in any way. Stress can affect any person due to variations from an external source or internal source or even both. Failing to manage personal or professional life and family life can result in adverse challenges in marriage life. This can even create stress in the kids. Sometimes if there are high conflicts and yelling among the parents then the chances of having suicidal thoughts in the kids' increase. The behavior and nature of kids have a lot of effects when there is stress and conflicts in the home. Apart from the kids, if you see the influence of stress on the married couple it plays a great role psychologically, emotionally, physically. Do you know? in any relation when a problem arrives or when stress is building up, we can really see the attitude and problem-solving skills of the partner. 

External stress is very hard to handle alone, but if there is support of another person to handle the stress it is easy to overcome. When there is a friend or someone to support to handle the stress, it becomes lighter. Now assume that if your life partner stood as a support then how easy it would become to handle the eternal pressure.

Why some families are able to successfully bounce back from a problem/stress? This is because the way they handled it unitedly. Let me share you the ABCX model. Reuben Hill studied families who survived the great depression and contrasted these families with those families that did not remain intact after the depression He developed his ABCX model in the year 1949.

Here the words A B C X represents the following:

A - The main stressor or the event

B - The resources available to overcome it

C - Perception of the families towards the stressor

X - The likelihood of crisis or can also be called the Experience

So for this model we can understand that for every stress there is a cause or something or an event involved . To overcome the stress first we need to identify it. It may be one or two or might be a piled-up challenges. Second, we need to analyze the available resources around us. They might be family, money, education, talents, neighbors, friends, Government Aid or benefits, Properties, Congregation, or some other resource which help you overcome the stress. Perception of the families towards the stress is the key step to overcome the stress. A qualitative analysis explores the themes of the reported family conflict. This is the key way in obtaining a right solution the come out of the stress.

Apart from the family or in the family the stress is sometimes built - in. This mostly happens among the people who are very honest, good, innocent and sometimes unwise or the fools. Sorry to say this. This is caused when these people see injustice for a problem in their life or someone else life. Those wonderful souls cannot control the pain of the injustice. This leads to anger and one fine time it burst out as stress was in peak moment.

Up to some part of my life I thought that stress, anxiety, and depression are same. The reality is they all three are different. So far from the above we have learning about stress. Now I will tell you about Anxiety. Anxiety is a normal behavior of life. Anxiety leads us do something since it is led by your emotional state. Google says that anxiety is the intense, excessive and persistent worry and fear about everyday situations. For example: Fear, heart rate, rapid breathing, seating and feeling tired may occur due to this. Anxiety can be normal in stressful situations such as public speaking. Anxiety and stress together can be dangerous or very beneficial to us. This depends on the way how we react and take the situation.

So, the other topic I am telling you is depression. This is the invisible weapon which attacks us unknowingly. It is the state of feeling low or fell down.

Anxiety, stress and depression all together can even kill a person. The first best medicine to overcome is stop thinking about it. Come out of it. Take the help of profession counselors or psychiatrist and just be happy with you and what you have. Millions of neurons in Brain are dying every day and millions of new and unused neurons are generated on the same time. It is up to us to see the glass as half full and move on this life with a great positivity attitude. Family is the center of God creation and core unit of the society. When everyone in the family is happy then there is joy.