Week 9

 Dear friends,

Today I am going to share about commination and mutual solving problems in the family and life. What are the ways to communicate we have in this present world? Some of the thoughts from my professor and my classmates are body language, social media, blogs, tone, etc., This is close. The real communication types are:

1. Words

2. Tone

3. Non-verbal

Communication is one of the key instruments for people in this present world. I feel communication is the wonderful thing that can save to overcome a problem, but using in an improper way like rude, vulgar or foolishly we can end up in deep trouble. That is the reason my professor said that it is a lot trickier that people think. When it comes to communication, we not only allow others to feel what is our intention is, but also sometimes we make others get confused or misloaded due to improper or uncomplete communication.

In a general man-made communication:

14% of the message comes through the words they speak

35% of the message comes through the tone they present and

5% of the message comes through the non-verbal skills they use. For example the expression, presentation skill, devices and other tools.

My father always told me to speak and communicate only when needed. This is very hard to understand as a small child for me. But later in my life as I saw the uses of it I understood that the more we hear and understand and the less we speak our words will have more value and importance. For example, if a person talks continuously, people around that person may hear him or her for some time, but later start to ignore the words of that person due to getting bored or irritated. But if you find a silent person and when he wants to convey some thought and he conveyed it and left in a simple way. Everyone will feel his worlds and understand it. In the same way we need to talk or communicate when it is necessary. If your talk and give some information unnecessarily your words will not get any attention or given any importance. In the King James version of Bible, Matthew chapter 5 verse 37 we learned that, "....let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil." This is one of most important things told in the Christianity to speak right. If we see even in Hinduism, the bagavad Gita says, "effective communication is that which contains the truth, which is beneficial to the listener, pleasant to hear and which is made only after self-study." From both verses we can see truth is the key in communication. In any family the best part which binds them together is love and family bond among them. Added to that wonderful emotion if truth is present, there will be trust among them. This trust is huge because of the truth and love in them, even the whole world comes against any one person in a family, that family will stand against the world because of the truth and love present among them.

Another way of expressing your feeling is called Anger. One of my classmates had said that “Anger is the second emotion. There is something behind everyone’s anger, which is the primary cause.” This is amazing. Anger doesn’t come out without a cause, if it comes out then there is some problem the person and doctor need to decide about it. Normally embarrassment leads to frustration which can lead to anger. Hope you might have understood how the emotion anger is caused. This is mostly very common among the teenagers. If anyone can learn and find the root cause of this anger and find solution to that they can solve many mysterious problems in their life with ease. Life is beautiful don’t make it miserable due to your emotions of anger.

Before concluding, I want to share you the five secrets of effective communication:

1.     Disarming technic – Look for and speak the cornel of truth

2.     Express empathy – Share or tell your feelings

3.     Inquiry – conform the truth or what was said

4.     I feel statements to assert. – Share those feelings of hardship

5.     Stroking – (Means to promote feelings of self-approval (or) flatter -kind of tapping gently on) -Often showed with Body language or expressions.

Following these wonderful things learned in this week blog we not only can improve and develop a good communication in the family but also in the society and places we travel and live. Remember, don’t through you precious words inform of stupid animals who cannot understand the importance of feeling and words. Be strong and move forward in life. Nothing is impossible.

-Srikanth