Week 10

Dear Friends,

Today I am going to share with you about fatherhood. My thoughts are mostly from the website: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_is_your_purpose_as_a_father which is an article written by Author, Jeremy Adam Smith which was published on June 18, 2020. Added to this article I also share my learning from the class and my life. Jeremy Adam Smith is an author or co-editor of five books, founding editor of Shareable.net, and an investigative journalist and essayist whose work focuses on education, family, and community life.

In the above article the author emphasized on few things some which I like to share with you are:

1. The evolution of father

2. The strength of the father

3. How can a father know his purpose

4. Emotional support of the Father next to mother

5. Name from the father

1. The evolution of father: 

Fatherhood is something I always feel is a divine gift from God to every man. In the current world, it is not easy for some to become a biological father due to bad health or genetic disorder or some other medical issues and mental disorders. For eligible individuals, there is always an option to adopt a child and enjoy the benefits of fatherhood. The fathers of now when compared to olden days in the majority there is a lot of difference in how they had raised their children and taught them the principles of life. Author Jeremy said that for many men, raising kids means that they need to make self-improvement and self-care part of their purpose. After the birth, “It was no longer acceptable for me to simply go through the motions,” said Blake Overbay, a sergeant with the Massachusetts Army National Guard. “I had to outwardly demonstrate that I was working to better myself. Like deliberate and exaggerated movements to warm-up before a workout.”

2. The strength of the father:

There is a saying in my region in my home country India which says: “Mother will keep a child in her womb for 9 months, but a father will keep his children and the family in his mind for the rest of his life and strive to help and support their growth.” Both the mother and father give great support for their kids but as a mother it is the primary responsibility to nurture the kids with good behavior and natural growth. Where the father is obligated to work and raise money with his hard work to support the family. This is the running fact and motivation for every father. The family is the strength and weakness of every father.

3. How can a father know his purpose

Most of the male could find their good purpose by learning from their goodly parents if they had raised them in the right order. Not every person may receive continuously support of the parents, some might loss this wonderful opportunity initially some might lose it in a later stage but for every male another way a father can learn his purpose is by learning from his good friends, neighbors, reading books, religious community, and so on. This is the way a male person can learn of the fatherhood purpose and strive his best to move in his life.

4. Emotional support of the Father next to mother

In some houses this is found missing due to the disturbance between the wife and husband. By birth most of the kids get a great emotional support from their mother, but the kids who get the emotional support from the father is much stronger and happier. Father is the strength and pillar of support next to mother.

5. Name from the father

Any where you go in this world, people will recognize you by your name. To be specific by your full name, which includes your surname which might have mostly come form your father or your father’s name. In some places the surname tells who you are. It is your identification in the society. This is only possible due to the father. For children who don’t their father from their childhood, the name was given from the people who had raised them.

To me these five things are great to describe a fatherhood and the gifts of it. My father is one of the best persons in this life I ever spent precious time and he is my hero. When I was around 14 years he passed away. I used to be very happy with him. He is one of the busiest contractors improving his business in his career, but he always used to give his time to me and my family. He loves to spend time by taking me and brothers on his small scooter. That is the funniest part we used to rejoice in the childhood.

Thank you.